With family constellations - a way of working which is developed by Bert Hellinger - we see that somebody's suffering (a sickness, a relationship problem, depression, eating disorders and so on) is often part of something, that is much bigger than the person who is suffering. Depression can for example develop, because out of love we carry the destiny of someone in our family, who did not want to live any more. For example because that person wanted to follow somebody else in dying, also because of love. This all happens unconsciously. If you start seeing such an entanglement in your family system, it is possible to come out of the identification with that other familymember.